Commitment Phobia | Beginners Guide For Using Goals

We were taught about them in school, we can read about them in books, we see quotes about them all over our social accounts. There is absolutely no doubt that we know that goals are good for us, we know we should make them and be 'SMART' about them.

Make your goals Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-bound.

I have a quote attached to my cork board which sits on my desk screaming at me daily that-

'Goals put feet on our dreams'

We make resolutions in the New Year, we plan our year ahead some of us even five years ahead and then more often than not we don't stick to our resolutions, some of us don't stick to our yearly plans, we get distracted and 'life' gets in the way.

Personally I don't think a New Year resolution is a good idea - I however do believe goals are important but am I any good at goal making? Absolutely not. I have a rough idea of what I want out of life and what I want to achieve for the year definitely.

I actually think I have a severe commitment problem.

Goals SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF ME.

Can anyone relate?

I've been thinking about ways to become less 'commitment-phobic' - 'what can I write for my followers to help them if they're in the same position as me?' well guys I am obviously no expert but here is where I want to begin.

Become accountable!

I am 100% afraid of sharing my goals. That would mean I have to stick to them hahaha SO AFRAID TO COMMIT. Someone help me! 

What if I were to share via social media, this blog, with my close friends and my partner something I want to achieve? Would that help me stick to it?

I know that for a lot of people being accountable can really help them. When we share our goals with others we have to show those people that we can stick to our word and i'm not saying we have to reach the end of our goal but we do have to have worked hard to get there, I definitely don't believe we are failures if we don't fully achieve them but if we haven't even tried well... 

So maybe a good place to begin is to share our goal with someone who we know will keep us accountable.

And start small!

Now if there is one thing you need to know about me its that I am a serious like serious big big dreamer! There are things in life I want to achieve that often seem so out of reach, mostly I don't even know where to begin. Also there is just so much I want to do!

Being a big dreamer like myself is not at all a bad thing, its actually the coolest thing ever! BUT often it can make us feel (well I know it does for me) small. Especially when you find it hard to know where to begin and you cannot see the path to the end.

So for us commitment phob's - those of us who struggle to achieve our goals lets start small!

There is no point in trying to reach your biggest goal in life if you struggle sticking to your goal in the first place right? Whatever you big goal is, you can get there but in small steps, you could break your big dream into smaller blocks and begin to take it a block at a time.

Or you could just warm yourself up to goal setting and sticking to goals with just something simple it doesn't always have to relate to your main goals it just needs to be something that can get you used to the idea of it all.

I think small daily goals are a good place to begin - things like committing to a walk everyday, writing in your journal daily or writing out your gratitude list daily, drinking a glass of water every morning - super simple I know but they are easy enough for us beginners (LOL) to get our brains used to commitment.

How many of you get satisfied from just ticking something off on a list? I LOVE ticking things off it is one of the most satisfying things in the world. So why not make up a daily chart and cross, tick, scribble whatever style you want that small task off your daily chart once you've done it for the day? Then not only will you feel good knowing you've done your deed for the day but you'll also be able to...

Track your progress

Seeing your progress will be the most motivating thing of all, and it will help you to believe in yourself more than ever!

My cute chart idea is just one of the many ways you could do this, find a way that works best for you research it get inspired and DO IT.

Lastly

The effect that committing to and achieving goals will have on our self-confidence should be all the motivation we need.

Instead of telling ourselves we 'suck' because we weren't able to simply commit to our goals we will be able to remind ourselves how great we are for working hard and trying hard to reach our goals!

Negative self talk is never ok. Ignore that asshole of an inner-voice telling you that you can't do it I know that its there, its there with me everyday and I know its the hardest thing to ignore but push past it continue your grind and show that asshole that its wrong!

I need to remind you that not fully achieving your goals is not a bad thing!!

Work hard to get there, how good does it make you feel knowing you've tried, tell yourself daily that you can do this, you can commit, you can achieve!

Guys.. WE CAN DO THIS.

My goal is to commit to a small goal - share it with ya'll - and see what progress I can achieve!

Keep an eye out! I'll be shocking ya'll with some goal commitment VERY soon!

GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!

Comment below your goals!!

xx

Aleisha

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

BE PROUD | GIVE YOURSELF RECOGNITION

Do you ever think you are more confident than you realise?

I struggle a lot, sometimes we need to sit down and have a think about our accomplishments and recognise our achievements.

I've personally grown a lot over the past few years and yet I have never really recognised it, I of course have days where I go back to the old me and become afraid of everything...

But today is a day for recognition!

We all have different ways in which we've grown but for me its being able to stand tall and confident and have a conversation with someone who may have made me nervous before.

So today lets all celebrate our personal accomplishments, be proud of yourselves! Recognise that small or big step you've made toward your overall happiness, write them down and hold on to them to look back on so we can continue to remind ourselves how amazing we are without feeling bad about it!

xx

Aleisha

My Current Inspiration: Logan Dodds

Have you ever seen someone online whom you think embodies a life in which you're inspired to lead? They inspire you creatively and to work harder toward your goals - currently for me this is Logan Dodds.

Youtube, Go Pro, video sensation Logan Dodds, had his first video go viral on the internet close to the end of last year, if you don't know who I am talking about / you haven't seen his video you should watch it here I hope it makes you as happy and excited as it made me. I have been following his journey ever since through his beautiful Instagram images and Youtube videos.

His online presence shows himself leading this exciting adventurous life, he has been traveling throughout NZ filming his #MyKiwiOE series which looks to be sponsored by Air New Zealand (I don't know that for sure however)... I mean how lucky is this guy!? Jokes.. I don't want to say he is lucky, saying someones successes come from luck makes them sound like untalented, non hard working people, Logan obviously is SUPER talented, and his hard work shows through his well thought out but seemingly spontaneous scenes in his videos.

I don't actually know much about his story just that he is from New Zealand, he was a builder / maybe could still be a builder and he left to go travel overseas, took his Go Pro with him and made magical videos! 

More often than not I am inspired by people who manifest a lot of confidence, people who have courage and who don't hesitate to lead the life they truely desire. To me this is Logan Dodds, he looks like an extremely likeable guy who easily gets along with most of the people he meets, he is outgoing and unafraid of what others might think of him, definitely someone who I would like to meet as all of those attributes are not ones which I possess myself.

I read an amazing blog post by one of my favourites Kate at Betty Means Business yesterday titled How To Put Yourself Out There, I was highly inspired by this article and right after I went over to Logan Dodds Instagram page and thought to myself this guy knows how to put himself out there, this guy is unafraid and I instantly knew if I wanted to possess the confidence I have always desired the type that Logan Dodds has I need to put some of the steps Kate has written about into action. I need to put myself out there

I think there is something so fantastic about being inspired by another individual, you have such a powerful tool when you are in the eyes of the world, to be a creative who shares your lifestyle and work with everyone is such a wonderful thing. Logan may never know all the people whom he inspires but I sure hope he knows he is one extremely inspirational man.

So for those of you out there needing something to pick you up if your feeling unmotivated or unenthused check out Logan Dodds and all his images and videos you'll find on his Instagram and Youtube accounts and I hope you find yourself just as inspired and motivated as I am by what he does and how he seemingly goes about it!

And for those of you out there who are alike me who need to put themselves out there, lets do it! There is no better time than now, and trust me I know I really really know how hard and scary it can be but if we don't do it now, we'll most likely live in regret and honestly who wants to live like that! In saying that I am going to struggle so much with this one, but i'll keep ya'll updated on my successes and failures here on the blog and also my Instagram.

xx

Aleisha